“Then I saw that all toil and all skill in work come from a man’s envy of his neighbor. This also is vanity and a striving after wind. The fool folds his hands and eats his own flesh. Better is a handful of quietness than two hands full of toil and a striving after wind.” (Ecclesiastes 4:4–6, ESV)
God teaches us ways that often go against our thinking. But we strive and we try, and we cry when we fail. We look at our life and ask why. We are driven by our desires and our desires are tied up in the flesh. The parts of our life that touches the rest of a broken world and we end up desiring what is broken. We dive into the noise, the clanking, and banging and think oh yeah, I got this. When really all we have accomplished according to scripture is nothing, we expend our energy, we are drained, and we think what is wrong. All I wanted was what I see that others have. We neglect what is truly best. To have God in the stillness and quiet. Even if we end up with two hands full of this world, we have nothing. However, one handful of God is everything.
What are you striving for? Even believers get caught in this trap thinking they are striving for God but they are not truly seeking God personally but what God can do for them. They will still end up with nothing but toil and strife. Spend your energy by desiring God and to sit in His quietness.